On smart.fm this user makes interesting themed lists on topics like "At Home" "In the Kitchen" "Health and Nutrition"
http://smart.fm/users/tipster
I once came across a list on about.com of daily tasks, from getting up, dressing, eating, washing etc that went through a typical day in verbs (and I think their allied nouns). However I now can't find the list. It would be an interesting exercise to compile a list like that. At least it would address your particular needs if you do it yourself.
Indeed your idea of only bothering with the words you immediately need is a valid one, and as good a way of any of prioritising your vocabulary.
... found it!
http://japanese.about.com/library/blpod.htm
June through September has the type of words you might be looking for.
I think textbooks tend to deal with broad grammar points and basic vocabulary rather than get very specific. However most will cover haku, kiru, suru, kakeru for putting items on your body covered by "wear" in English. (and nugu immortalised in the song title "Sailor Fuku Wo Nugasanaide" from the wholesome Onyanko Club)
Here is another interesting list (in English) of the most useful basic phrases to know.
http://www.lingua.org.uk/voc.html
translating to Japanese is a user exercise!
And some interesting essays about learning vocabulary.
http://www.lingua.org.uk/voc.html
http://www.lingua.org.uk/vocdb.html